It takes two to make a child, but so often the partnership finishes when a child comes into the world one person shoulders most of the parenting load.
The joy of parenting is often overtaken by tension as parenting tasks aren’t shared and different ideas about raising kids lead to conflict.
Nothing wrong with tension and conflict, but if it’s not dealt with it can simmer away hindering your relationship and also harming your parenting.
Here are five practical ideas to help you and your partner get on the same parenting page:
- Attend a parenting program or parenting talk together. This can stimulate conversation about a whole range of parenting issues. It can also help you understand where each other comes from.
- Give responsibility for an aspect of parenting to your partner. Don’t take it all on yourself!
- Get a joint position on a range of issues including how you will discipline kids, how to introduce kids to alcohol and when to talk to kids about sexuality.
- Defer to your partner often when kids want more freedom, ask tricky questions or just want more stuff. “I’ll ask your father and get back to you” should be heard a lot by kids.
- Make your partner responsible for his or her relationship with children. Often one parent explains the kids to her partner, and also explains the other parent to the children.
Whether you and your partner love together or have experienced separation and divorce one of the greatest gifts you can give your children is the consistency that comes with parenting from the same page.